Have you ever felt like every woman around you is pregnant or has kids except you?

I guess I am just at that stage, I suppose. But i wondered if any one else ever felt like this. Like every one else is pregnant or has a child execpt you and it breaks your heart because you want it so badly that it hurts and it makes you want to cry. Like you can't even look at baby stuff at the store without wanting to cry.... For me, my best friend just had her second kid in July. I am 6 months older than she is. ( I'll be 23 on Dec 24th) I feel like I'm doing something wrong to not deserve a family... any advice or anyone ever felt this way? How did you get over it?


Oh, and please don't tell me how young I am and how I have time. That doesn't help.|||hi


I am sort of in your same situation. I'm 20, been married for 2 years and my husband is in the military, we live on base, and we're probably the only couple that doesn't have kids. everybody here has at least 3 kids and it's killing me! It's hard I know, so I try to keep myself busy. Everytime i go to the mall or wal mart I always look at the baby section, comparing prices and stuff, or thinking how our empy guest room would look like as a nursery. yeah that's how bad I want it. So I just have to wait until my husband is ready, but honestly, I think I will explode if I'm not pregnant in 2 yrs max. so I hope this helped a little, so that you know you're not alone!!|||Well, sorry that you don't think that it helps you but the truth of the matter is is that you ARE young and that you DO have so much time to start a family. Maybe you should see a psychologist. Not trying to be rude, but maybe if you are this young and having these kinds of feelings a medical proffessional could help you explore why.|||I'd feel sorry for you, except my best friend is in the same boat and she'll be 36 next month, so she deserves my sympathies a little more. Sorry to tell you you're young, but you really are! I had my first at 27 and didn't feel ready.|||I was TTC for 6 years before i got pregnant with my first so yes I know exactly how you feel. My neice even got pregnant and had my first greatnephew before i got to get pregnant. Heck my 16 year old stepdaughter and 17 year old cousin had babies before me. It can be rough but I just tried to enjoy the babies and be happy for them but even then i would cry some nights because i wanted a baby so bad|||my aunt never had one she is 50 she feels very deprived help her with hers and get in practice cause if you hold them it may induce motherhood but choose a very good man with a very good personailty for the relatonship unless you have that already|||Darling It is very Understandblie to Be sad and I kinda Know what u mean but maybe the time is not righ. Nothing Comes from Nothing and Things happen for a reason you do Not say if u are married or anything maybe your nnot ready for a kid or God does not think that the Man you are with or thinking of having a Kid with is right for u or maybe something I gonna happen and a bvaby should Not be Involved Keep praying and Don't loose faith u Are a Blessing Beleave it and Remmber ur not worthless maybe u should Adopt but being a good Parent is more impotant than saying I am one





good Luck and God bless|||Hey, wow...you already got a lot of mean comments. Well, I know how you feel. Not for myself, but my sister was just talking to me the other day about herself feeling this way! She is my older sister, and I just had my first baby...imagine how SHE feels....yeah....(and I am 22, so who cares how young you are...women can feel this way at ANY age...biological clocks go off right? you don't control that!). Anyway, You are not alone...but have fun, relax and your day will come to....enjoy your life please no matter what is going on in it right now. You are not doing ANYTHING wrong...everyone has thier own time for everything.|||I know exactly how you feel. I had it all planned that I would be married by 20 and be done having kids by 30 and had my first child at 28 and not another one on the way anytime soon. I want another so badly but the timing isn't right for us and I have to respect that decision. It always seems like everyone else is having babies and they look so cute pregnant and i want to be that way. I don't really have much advice (and I will steer away from your age cuz you asked) except to know that everything happens for a reason and when the time is right it will happen. You DONT want it to happen until you are in the right situation all the way around. Good luck with your situation and keep your chin up. You are doing nothing wrong, the timing just isn't right!|||I did, %26amp; I wasn't exactly looking to have a child, but seeing so many pregnant women made me feel like having one. But I tried not to feel that way, since I'm only 19.





As soon as I stopped thinking about it so much, low %26amp; behold - I became one of them. Now I'm 4 months along.





It will happen for you, you'd be surprised how much of a mind-body connection really exists...when you relax a little %26amp; take it one day at a time, you may find yourself having a little bundle of joy sooner than you expected!|||Ok. I do notice it. I am a young "just married" person, and I have been hit by the baby fever. And as much as I do want one, I realize that my finances and my home situation should be in a better state than they are before we try to have kids, and when it happens, it'll happen.





If you dwell on it so much, it'll be like the teakettle... a watchpot never boils. If months and years go by with you trying and having regular periods and having no other physical ailments, then maybe you should consider some fertility tests, but (even though you say it won't help) you DO have time. The past 2 years do seem (to me) to have been hit by a baby wave, but I think that is probably just because I am starting to get to the age of a young adult, as are my friends, and we are all starting to move on with our lives and want to have families.








If it is hurting you this badly and you are truly miserable even looking at baby clothes, then maybe you should either talk to your significant other about actively trying to conceive and following your ovulation cycle or see your obgyn to see if they have any conceiving tips that are healthy that might help you if you are having trouble.





Or maybe you should just focus on being young and alive and when the time is right good things will happen and come your way.|||Why don't you babysit your friends kids, you may or may not change your mind. Having kids are a full-time 24/7 responsibility. If you really love being around kids then maybe you could ask your friend if you could be her kids godmother, or take a job in a daycare or other facility working with kids, this way you get to be around kids without the commitment. Eventually you will meet the right person that you are going to be with and you will have a family of your own, until then theres not much you can do unless you want to adopt or use a sperm bank and be a single mother. Good luck|||yup for many years I felt like that - and I got really angry and spiteful towards pregnant women almost to the point where I instantly hated anyone who was pregnant.





now years on I am 17 weeks pregnant - on feb 22nd 2008 my little miracle will be born :)|||if u have been trying 4 a long time, (to start a family),and nothing happened..i would consider seeking medical advice


or adopting.|||I'm a guy, but let me tell you my wife's story: We didn't get together until she was 34 and I was 35, neither of us had kids. We got married, no pregnancy. For years, her insurance fought any OB/GYN examinations. Long story short, eventually her OB/GYN found that her ovaries had cysts on both of them. A simple operation and we were pregnant within a year--and have 2 wonderful, amazing children! .





I dreaded Mother's Days in those non-fertile years. "I'm never going to have a baby!" "Life is so unfair"





I can tell you, I wish my wife and I could have met sooner and that the ovaries hadn't been a problem, but by going through this trial is really made us appreciate our children!





No quick fixes in this post--but be true to yourself, make sure you find a guy who is committed to you and any children you create for the long-haul!!





Best of luck!!|||I am wondering the same thing. Actually a few of my old friends that I have known for years all have kids but me. So I dunno I wlanna try to have kids in a few months so we will see god only knows.|||Well my brother's girlfriend just gave birth to my niece at age 43. That was their first child. A friend of mine had her first child at 39 and now she just had another one at 41. I also know a woman who had her first child at 45. All the kids are happy and healthy. There are lots of advantages to starting a family late, because you have more time to do the other things you want with your life and become a strong person first. When you have kids, your self gets put on the back burner for about twenty years or so. Your time will come when it's meant to, and hopefully when you're in a healthy relationship with someone you can count on to be a good father! That is so important!|||I live on a military post where many people are only married BECAUSE they got pregnant. Apparently everyone except me is a Fertile Myrtle. I was pregnant, but had a miscarriage. And this past cycle I got my period the day my friend (who already has a son) found out that she was pregnant. I completely understand. Everywhere I go, half the women are pregnant, if not more. And I just sit around waiting for when I can take a pregnancy test, looking at baby stuff, allowing myself to hope while at the same time admonishing myself for hoping for something that I don't actually expect to happen again after so many months of periods. And to everyone who talked about "not the right time," it doesn't matter. You can hope with all of your heart that it's just because it isn't the right time and there's a reason for everything, but that doesn't stop you from crying every time you get your period, being envious of everyone else's children, and feeling depressed because you WANT that baby. Trusting in "not the right time" requires an extraordinary amount of faith in a higher power, and as time goes by while you're waiting for the "right time" to magically happen, you start losing faith in whether or not it will ever come. Why aren't my husband and I, financially secure, good with children, love children, healthy, have the space, etc., at the "right time" yet when my friend, broke, in debt, keeps her house filthy, son covered in flea bites, struggling with marriage problems, has hit the "right time" AGAIN??? There's not a science to this, there's never a "right time" because a right time requires universal circumstances, and they don't exist. And those of us who have those problems, such as myself and the asker, don't want pity, we want commiseration. My advice is to see an OBGYN/fertility specialist and rule out fertility problems if you've been trying for more than a year. If you haven't invest in a fertility monitor and Taking Charge of Your Fertility Software (helps you chart BBT, cervical mucus, sex, etc.). After using that for a few months, hopefully you will get pregnant. If not, see the fertility specialist. At least then you know that doing everything you can, knowing when you ovulate, having sex at the right time, etc. you're still not getting pregnant. This is a biological function, and therefore somewhat out of our control. With those methods at least you can know that you're doing everything possible, and if you don't get pregnant it's not because you're doing something wrong. Otherwise, just try to keep a positive attitude and count your blessings elsewhere in life, not to discount what having a baby would mean to you, but to try to briefly take your mind off it. That's the only way I deal with it, ignoring it and pretending I'm not enduring another 2ww. I also suggest staying away from and not looking online at any baby stuff. Salt in the wound.|||yes i have felt that way....makes you feel like a failure. just think of it this way....at least you'll keep your figure longer...and can still splurge on that great new pair of shoes you saw in the window.|||I feel this way. In 2005 I wanted another baby. So we started trying. So my cousin and his wife had twins,then my god sister had a baby,then my other cousin and his girl where pregant,now my uncle's wife is pregant. I have PSO and been taking meds and everything but nothing. I can't even hold a baby without wanting to cry. I get so mad because after all that trying to get knocked up this time has not been easy. My daugther was easy. So I do understand and there is nothing I can do but ride the tide. That is something real you want never get over it until it happens. You are not doing nothing wrong don't beat yourself up.|||yes. i am 29, and I've recently been feeling that way. you do have plenty of time to have kids. i know you don't want to hear that, but you do. are you married? because that helps. it's just your "clock" yelling at you right now...mine's been doing it for a little now. i want to buy everything that's cute in the store (especially shoes). my husband and i are going to start trying at the beginning of the year. i hope that you find that special someone, and don't lose hope. you are only 22, and think of what your friend is going through. 2 kids at 22? that's young. you aren't a bad person. do the things you want to do NOW, go to college, start a career, etc. travel. kids keep a lot from happening.|||If having a child soon is important to you, put up a personal ad on a dating site saying you are looking to find someone interested in having kids very soon. There are guys out there who are ready for kids and would marry you and start a family pretty quickly.





With my first husband, we started dating in September and we were married in early January. The want for children and to have be a family encouraged us to get married quickly. I never did have any children with him though.|||I know it's not what you want to read but you are young and you do have time. Having children is a very special thing but it has to be when you're in a stable relationship (preferably married), financially stable, and have a stable home.





Bringing a child into the world for purely selfish reasons is not the right thing to do. Not saying you're planning it but keep in mind what's important: A child's overall welfare, wants, and needs versus your wants.





I'm almost 27 and getting married in 13 days. I want a family more than anything but my fiance and I know we still have time to plan, to travel, to save money, and to enjoy each other as a married couple. We're looking at another 2-3 years before we even begin trying for a baby.





Just work hard, get an education, travel, enjoy life, and when the time is right for you, it will happen. Until then, find a hobby and get your mind off of it. It' hard but it's possible.|||Nope!|||blah blah blah. just relax and don't let it consume your life. I hate people who do that.|||You should stop working ina materinity unit.|||Nope. Just think about that woman for a moment with the agony that she will face when her kids turn on her and turn into teens. There, sounds better in a different perspective, now doesn't it? lol Babies only last for a little while.